Question about Girlfriends of SF operators - Page 2

Hoss · 07-08-2007, 16:48

I think I'm finished researching the question. Just wanted to say thanks to all the other posts, I did learn a lot. Three things in particular

(1) I HAVE to prioritize. If I cannot clear out all other distractions, girlfriend, family, ect, than I am not ready to commit or am not made out for the lifestyle required

(2) If I If I am ready to commit, then I have to commit 100%, to preparing for the Q, getting through the Q, and then the mission ahead. All of this without distractions, because any distraction that takes my mind off of the job will endanger my life or the lives of the men fighting next to me.

(3) Be very, very careful about questions or posts in the future

Thanks again to all of the posts and the advice. I am here to learn, so I will continue to do so for a while longer.

kgoerz · 07-08-2007, 21:46

After a couple of years on a Team you will change. You will be working with Educated people and more importantly Smart people. Simply put you will become a more worldly person. The home town Girl you married will not be as interesting as before. The conversations you two have will become boring to you. You will grow up in a lot of different ways. She will be the same person. IMO this is the reasons a lot of marriages in SF fail.
Thats why a Lot of guys who go SF are accused of thinking they are better then their friends. It's not true. The SF Guy just out grew his friends.

x SF med · 07-10-2007, 11:04

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Originally Posted by *FutureSoldier*

I think I'm finished researching the question. Just wanted to say thanks to all the other posts, I did learn a lot. Three things in particular

(1) I HAVE to prioritize. If I cannot clear out all other distractions, girlfriend, family, ect, than I am not ready to commit or am not made out for the lifestyle required

(2) If I If I am ready to commit, then I have to commit 100%, to preparing for the Q, getting through the Q, and then the mission ahead. All of this without distractions, because any distraction that takes my mind off of the job will endanger my life or the lives of the men fighting next to me.

(3) Be very, very careful about questions or posts in the future

Thanks again to all of the posts and the advice. I am here to learn, so I will continue to do so for a while longer.

You still don't get it. All your prioritizing, clearing distractions, etc will not make you SF. SFAS is a step, a preliminary allowance by men who know what it takes to do the job, acceptance to be able to train with them. SFQC is a step, a constant microscope, actually a jeweler's loupe, looking for flaws, and if major flaws are found, you go from front counter merchandise (SF) to industrial grinding stock (Infantry) without polishing. SFQC is the cutting and polishing of the gems and the discarding of the non gem quality rocks that make it through. SFAS does a very good job of sifting and classifying the raw stock, but it is the preliminary grading of the material.

You cannot make yourself SF, you have it inside, and it gets recognized, or you don't - that's why it is called Special.

You will have distractions, that's part of life. How do you overcome them? that's SF. Prioritizing? The Team and the mission and being the absolute best at what you do. It is not all about you, or how you look to others, or being a big bad Green Beret, sorry kid, that's the difference between you and the QPs - even thought they've earned the right to a huge ego, there's no need for it. You still want to feed yours - SF is not the place to accomplish that goal.