Basic Q's from a parent - Page 3

lksteve · 02-15-2005, 21:08

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Originally Posted by Ambush Master

I called home from Benning after my first jump and asked if they remembered the old Flying Boxcars that flew out of Ellington Field. They both said yes and I said, "Well, I jumped out of one today !!"

a few months after i enlisted, mom and dad went to the commissary at Fort Carson, during B/75IN short stay there...i guess there was a helicopter drop zone nearby and mom looked up as some Rangers were descending under canopy...she looked at dad and said something to the effect of 'thank God he isn't doing that....'

i called sometime that week and dad asked where i was...i told him i was a Benning....doing what, he said...jump school i said..."you're telling your mother" he said...

lksteve

3dfxMM · 03-08-2005, 13:22

Well, my son has graduated from BAC and is in hurry-up-and-wait mode at Ft. Bragg. He is supposed to start on the 28th, but I have learned to wait to see what really happens.

NousDefionsDoc · 03-08-2005, 13:53

My congratulations to him and you. No matter what happens from now on, at least he'll never be a nasty leg again.

3dfxMM · 03-08-2005, 15:18

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No matter what happens from now on, at least he'll never be a nasty leg again.

He said almost exactly that same thing when we saw him before his bus left for Bragg.

Swankskttn · 03-13-2005, 18:49

Hi.

First post here, but my husband is graduating BCT next week at Benning. Mid-week he called me asked my opinion about him signing an SF contract. I said yes, of course.

In all my research on military I didnt know tht they took people straight out of BCT, I always thought you had to be at least a SGT to even get into SFAC.

So... my question... IS it normal/usual for recruiting during BCT?
Has there been a more recent insurgence of them recruiting during BCT or has it always been that way?

So... anyhoo, congrats to your son, 3dfxMM. I dont know anything about when my husbands SFAC starts... but I'm assuming March or April.

So I'll be off to his graduation this week, then maybe browsing here more often. Lots of interesting info. Doing some research about SF wives... but not too much info on the net that I can fine. Any help/links would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance....

NousDefionsDoc · 03-13-2005, 18:58

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Originally Posted by Swankskttn

Hi.

First post here, but my husband is graduating BCT next week at Benning. Mid-week he called me asked my opinion about him signing an SF contract. I said yes, of course.

In all my research on military I didnt know tht they took people straight out of BCT, I always thought you had to be at least a SGT to even get into SFAC.

So... my question... IS it normal/usual for recruiting during BCT?
Has there been a more recent insurgence of them recruiting during BCT or has it always been that way?

So... anyhoo, congrats to your son, 3dfxMM. I dont know anything about when my husbands SFAC starts... but I'm assuming March or April.

So I'll be off to his graduation this week, then maybe browsing here more often. Lots of interesting info. Doing some research about SF wives... but not too much info on the net that I can fine. Any help/links would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance....

Welcome aboard. Thanks for filling in your profile. Whether they recruit in basic training or not depends on the program of the day. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. They currently are, nothing nefarious and nobody is watching him specifically. Good answer to his question, and since I have now quoted you, we will have evidence in perpetuity.

We don't allow our wives to post on the net. Or have any outside contact at all for that matter. It's an OPSEC thing you see.

Swankskttn · 03-13-2005, 19:11

Thanks for the quick reply. Sooo I guess I can't complain later on that I said yes. Dern blackmail! Sigh....

No outside contact?! Good thing I'm a shut-in, albino, living in a shack. : )
I truly understand about OPSEC. Thats why I've steered away from army wives forums that I've seen so far. Not only are the forums full of whining, and Opsec comes into into play.. but so is... uhm... rape and getting killed. I've seen phone numbers, pictures, locations, etc, etc, etc. Ah well I guess most women don't value themselves enough...or something like that.

Well, I'm supposing they have FRG and that kinda thing. Where's my wifely training manual?

Well, again thanks for the quick reply and since I'm just a wife, I'll try not to post TOO much.... : )

**Kyobanim** · 03-13-2005, 19:21

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Originally Posted by Swankskttn

Thanks for the quick reply. Sooo I guess I can't complain later on that I said yes. Dern blackmail! Sigh....

No outside contact?! Good thing I'm a shut-in, albino, living in a shack. : )
I truly understand about OPSEC. Thats why I've steered away from army wives forums that I've seen so far. Not only are the forums full of whining, and Opsec comes into into play.. but so is... uhm... rape and getting killed. I've seen phone numbers, pictures, locations, etc, etc, etc. Ah well I guess most women don't value themselves enough...or something like that.

Well, I'm supposing they have FRG and that kinda thing. Where's my wifely training manual?

Well, again thanks for the quick reply and since I'm just a wife, I'll try not to post TOO much.... : )

Welcome to the site.

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We don't allow our wives to post on the net. Or have any outside contact at all for that matter. It's an OPSEC thing you see.

Can I get that grandfathered into my marrige license or is it something you have to do upfront?

**Pete** · 03-13-2005, 19:21

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Originally Posted by Swankskttn

Doing some research about SF wives... but not too much info on the net that I can fine. Any help/links would be appreciated. ....

Just some advice;
1.) Get to know the spouse of the soldiers your husband is going through the course with. Once he gets out of training get to know the other team members wives the best you can. SF is not really that big and you will be bumping into them again.

2.) Attend and unit/family support meetings that you are invited to. Get a working knowledge of the unit and the key individuals. This will make you an Army wife, a little green under the collar.

3.) Learn the proper way you contact your spouse in a "REAL" emergency. Doing it the wrong way wastes time and doing it for piddly crap ties up time that can be better used fixing the problem yourself.

4.) Have a life of your own. When he takes off to do his thing do not go into depression and run off to the bars.

5.) Now for the hard part. It's not the going or the being gone that's hard it's the coming home part that's the hardest. He comes home and expects it to be like the day he took off. You've been running things for up to a year. It's a big adjustment time for both of you. If the two of you can slip into a routine you'll be in for the long haul. If not something will have to give or go.

My first wife was a pure civilian at heart and was just not up to the life, amoung other things.

Now go find the other wives and let us get back to guy stuff

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Pete

NousDefionsDoc · 03-13-2005, 19:28

Pete,
You stay away from my wife.

**Pete** · 03-13-2005, 19:57

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Originally Posted by NousDefionsDoc

Pete,
You stay away from my wife.

I've seen first hand, well not that close, just what hanky-panky between unit members and others in the unit wifes can do. Shock waves bounce around for a number of months. In 21 years I can only recall 3 incidents. One was an officer's wife with an enlisted man and the two others were inter company incidents where a single guy nailed somebodys wife. All caused bad feelings between a number of individuals for a great while. I'd say the knife is still out in one of the cases.

For the spouse of an SF soldier the good news is when the guys take off it really is "The Guys".

Pete

NousDefionsDoc · 03-13-2005, 20:50

I don't mean hanky-panky, I don't care about that. I just don't want you ruining her with all that FSG crap.

**Pete** · 03-13-2005, 21:17

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Originally Posted by NousDefionsDoc

I don't mean hanky-panky, I don't care about that. I just don't want you ruining her with all that FSG crap.

And that's because you have an "Old Hand" at SF life.

The Family Support Group is a wonderfull thing for a young wife not yet wise in the was of the Army. It's true the "old hands" have little need for it and take care of their own business.

We would have a big push for attendance at the FSG meetings when I was a 1SG and SGM. I'd count heads and it was most of the "Old Hands" and new to SF wives who were missing at the meetings. "Old Hands" never bothered the rear detachment except in a life or death situation. They would come through the area once a month or so to pick up the LES and that's about it.

The worst ones were the new to the Army, new to SF, away from mommy for the first time wives. They loved hubby just to much to take the time to go to the FSG meeting and learn all the basic stuff of who to contact, people who can help, etc. The plane would barely be wheels up and the phone calls would start coming into the rear detachment from the new wives. To or three wives calling a couple of times a day can become a real time killer. Then there comes the tear-jerker letters to the poor guy and his head is back home not on the job he's doing. Bad, very bad.

After all that training a new guy is going to do the job. The question for the wife is "Are you going to help and aid him in doing his job or are you going to be a drag and a real moral killer?"

I get a bit worked up on this subject because I've seen the effect a piss poor wife can have on a guy on a long deployment. And when that guy is not working at 100% that means somebody else on the team has to pick up the slack.

OK, I'm of the soapbox and this was not directed at NDD but to the "New Wife".

Pete

Scrappy · 03-22-2005, 16:05

When did yall guys find time to get married? and how do you keep it together on the long deployments? I just assumed that was one of things i would have to scrafice to live the SF life.

**Pete** · 03-22-2005, 17:55

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Originally Posted by Scrappy

When did yall guys find time to get married? and how do you keep it together on the long deployments? I just assumed that was one of things i would have to scrafice to live the SF life.

The answer to # 1 is between trips.

The answer to # 2 is we didn't. The first one couldn't take it so she took another path in life. Much better choice on the second one. Or did she pick me? I'll have to ponder that a bit.

Pete