Thanks for the feedback folks,
Regarding shutting up, I am definitely practicing the Grey man. Its god dam harder then I thought. I communicate and query everything for a living, (literally) and I'm a verbal processor to boot! (lol).
I'm determined to break these habits before I ship.
I asked the old man the other day how I can tell the difference between weather I should speak up or not. (Ex LTC officer).
He said if you think of something to say. Say it in your head first. Then if it sounds good, just check it one more time.
Once you have done that hopefully the person you want to say the thing to has wandered off and in that way the temptation to say the stupid thing you were thinking of has gone away too.
Sage advice from a BTDT