This Is Probably The Only Thread I Will Start

[Jessilm]

I tried searching through the other threads, and couldn't really find what I am looking for.

Truthfully, I just want advice in how to best make my fiancée feel supported. In my intro post, I said I'm an army brat, and my dad told me that it all boils down to the one rule of "don't be a distraction." That rule spans schools, training, deployments, everything.

But I was wondering if there were better ways (more specific to supporting someone going through the Q course, not just ways to handle someone who is simply "in the military") And, while I know he hasn't made it through yet, what my "job" is after he graduates. Right now, I am wedding planning, and we've decided that I will handle it and he will basically show up, say his line, and leave with a new wife. We've timed it while he's going to be on a hold, but I've also told all our friends and family that it could change right up to the day of. I send letters and care packages and make sure not to pressure him for time that he will be studying to be spent on the phone with me... I just know there's more I can do for him, and from the reading I've done on this forum, if there were ever a group of people who would give honest, no BS answers, it would be this group...

I know the SOF community divorce rate is exceptionally high, and I want to do my best to prevent that from happening to he and I. Anything would be helpful!