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Originally Posted by NousDefionsDoc
I don't mean hanky-panky, I don't care about that. I just don't want you ruining her with all that FSG crap.  |
And that's because you have an "Old Hand" at SF life.
The Family Support Group is a wonderfull thing for a young wife not yet wise in the was of the Army. It's true the "old hands" have little need for it and take care of their own business.
We would have a big push for attendance at the FSG meetings when I was a 1SG and SGM. I'd count heads and it was most of the "Old Hands" and new to SF wives who were missing at the meetings. "Old Hands" never bothered the rear detachment except in a life or death situation. They would come through the area once a month or so to pick up the LES and that's about it.
The worst ones were the new to the Army, new to SF, away from mommy for the first time wives. They loved hubby just to much to take the time to go to the FSG meeting and learn all the basic stuff of who to contact, people who can help, etc. The plane would barely be wheels up and the phone calls would start coming into the rear detachment from the new wives. To or three wives calling a couple of times a day can become a real time killer. Then there comes the tear-jerker letters to the poor guy and his head is back home not on the job he's doing. Bad, very bad.
After all that training a new guy is going to do the job. The question for the wife is "Are you going to help and aid him in doing his job or are you going to be a drag and a real moral killer?"
I get a bit worked up on this subject because I've seen the effect a piss poor wife can have on a guy on a long deployment. And when that guy is not working at 100% that means somebody else on the team has to pick up the slack.
OK, I'm of the soapbox and this was not directed at NDD but to the "New Wife".
Pete