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turboprop · 04-13-2011, 18:57

-You are an 18x going to SOPC/SFAS in November/December, unless your career has taken some unusual turns, it hasn't even started yet.

-Since you are not actually in the Army yet, making plans for your time in the Army is not wise:

In December: You will have hopefully just been selected to continue training, you will also have just PCS'd and undergone a about 1.5-2 months of training that didn't allow a lot of family time. I don't believe the Army will move her until after SFAS, which is for the best, since you will be busy/gone and she won't know anyone. If you are injured/fail in any part of training you may be put on hold and screw up your timeline, and also score some CQ duty during Christmas Exodus. If you fail at SFAS then you may be doing details or taking leave in route to your next duty station, which may not be at Ft Bragg.

Bottom line: You came here for advice, it's up to you whether you use it/agree with it. If I were you I would wait. It will still be an awesome wedding next Christmas time (2012). I understand the bennies of being married for both of you as far as the Army goes, so doing it at the County Clerk (until the big shebang next Crhistmas) may be the best option for you, especially if she is moving to Bragg during your Q-Course. Maybe wait on changing her name till then.

You may not always be able to please everyone, and the Army often makes it very hard. If you can do right by her and yourself, pleasing her family becomes secondary.

04-13-2011, 18:57	#22
turboprop Quiet Professional Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: USA Posts: 120	My thoughts -You are an 18x going to SOPC/SFAS in November/December, unless your career has taken some unusual turns, it hasn't even started yet. -Since you are not actually in the Army yet, making plans for your time in the Army is not wise: In December: You will have hopefully just been selected to continue training, you will also have just PCS'd and undergone a about 1.5-2 months of training that didn't allow a lot of family time. I don't believe the Army will move her until after SFAS, which is for the best, since you will be busy/gone and she won't know anyone. If you are injured/fail in any part of training you may be put on hold and screw up your timeline, and also score some CQ duty during Christmas Exodus. If you fail at SFAS then you may be doing details or taking leave in route to your next duty station, which may not be at Ft Bragg. Bottom line: You came here for advice, it's up to you whether you use it/agree with it. If I were you I would wait. It will still be an awesome wedding next Christmas time (2012). I understand the bennies of being married for both of you as far as the Army goes, so doing it at the County Clerk (until the big shebang next Crhistmas) may be the best option for you, especially if she is moving to Bragg during your Q-Course. Maybe wait on changing her name till then. You may not always be able to please everyone, and the Army often makes it very hard. If you can do right by her and yourself, pleasing her family becomes secondary.
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