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Originally Posted by Tyzoone
Hey all,
QP's, would you say there are numerous coinciding characteristics among the wives who can handle the SF life?
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Independence
Faithfulness
Low tolerance for whining/BS
Strength
Think outside the box (and for herself)
Multitask
Tough
Adaptive/Resilient
Understanding
It also helps to be married to a great husband
I married my husband while he was in the Q course. We have been through five deployments in five years in addition to TDY, schools, and the other stuff. In that time we have had two kids. I completed two undergrad degrees in 18 months while working full time and pregnant with number two. I am now (thankfully) in my last semester of my graduate program and getting ready to send our oldest off to kindergarten. I am not the exception. Most of the wives I know carry equally crazy schedules.
I love my husband like crazy and don't relish the idea of him being gone all the time. Nevertheless that is part of his job, and we seem to make it work. Good communication even when there is limited communication, solid ground rules, and generally being crazy about each other help. However, there are no hard and fast rules to a successful marriage (SF or otherwise). Situations are different for every marriage, team, company, battalion, and group. No one can tell you how it is going to be, and if they try, they are full of crap.
If you want your wife to get comfortable with the idea, have them spend time around a SF soldier and his wife who have learned to make it work. Let her see that it is possible. I have about three friends who had been resistant to letting their husbands go to selection because they had heard over and over again how horrible group life was on families.... until they met us. Personally, I have no experience with regular Army, but group has been fantastic supporting the family. When a wife needs something, they are on it.
There is my.02 from the wife’s perspective.