Originally Posted by 1stindoor (Post 386529)

My .02 cents. I got married immediately following graduation from language school...by the Justice of the Peace in Dillon, S.C. It was just over a month prior to my "real wedding."

Originally Posted by 1stindoor (Post 386529)

As an aside, my CSM when I asked for leave to go get married, said this to me..."

Originally Posted by Buffalobob (Post 386299)

You really do not need the distraction of a wedding during selection and anyone who has been involved in a long wedding planning exercise will tell you that the questions such as silverware, china, exact words of the ceremony etc cannot be handled without your participation and the problem is no matter how tactful you are by phone or email when you choose the flaming yellow and orange tuxedo, there is going to be nuclear warheads launched. All of this is going on when your thought process should be on how many quarts of fluid have you taken in and expended today and how are you going to pass the land nav when you were up all last night with your darling sweetie discussing whether to have the lobster newburg or the braised chicken.

Your only saving grace is that they take all of your electronic gizmos away from you so sweetie pie honey bunch's mother, the dragon of hell, will be calling the first sergeant wanting to know why you are not answering your phone calls.
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I should take a stick and beat you with if for reminding me of all those painful conversations when I was trying to take final exams so I could graduate with an engineering degree from Alabama.

I do believe, now that I have more life experiences, that redleg danger close is preferable to wedding planning or perhaps they are the same thing. :D

So 36+ years later, here I sit retired with my wife still working and I have made a meatloaf to bake for our dinner tonight (if she comes home in time) and will zap a couple of potatoes and some green beans.

Originally Posted by mhaggart (Post 386613)

She has spend a good deal of time learning about my career choice and what goes into making a soldier. I truly believe she wants this tab as much as I do. As far as not getting married in December. I would still have at least a year of training. I assumed after the wedding I would have time to make the transition to a married man and get her up to Ft. Bragg over a period of time.

She has also waited to apply for jobs until she knows where I will be and when she will be able to move to get a job in the area. I'm trying my best to make this work. Hope it does...I love them both.

Originally Posted by LongWire (Post 386616)

If all you want is a Tab, then save yourself some sweat and go buy one. They don't cost that much. Hell I'll send you a used one if you give me the shipping and handling......I've got some spares floating around here somewhere.

Originally Posted by greenberetTFS (Post 386633)

I didn't get a Tab or a Knife when I graduated so if you'll send me "both"

Originally Posted by LongWire (Post 386616)

At this point she may have a better understanding than you.....But there's a whole lot of assumption being done on your part. Once again you aren't thinking this through very well. You need to have your head on straight so that you may focus on the course. A JOP is probably your best course at least until you know what your schedule is going to be like.....all this being said if you do happen to make it through selection!!!!

If all you want is a Tab, then save yourself some sweat and go buy one. They don't cost that much. Hell I'll send you a used one if you give me the shipping and handling......I've got some spares floating around here somewhere.

Originally Posted by mhaggart (Post 386966)

......... If you want to add any more bitter posts to this threat just send me a private message, easier to find them, and laugh.

Originally Posted by mhaggart (Post 386966)

If you want to add any more bitter posts to this threat just send me a private message, easier to find them, and laugh.

Originally Posted by Team Sergeant (Post 386584)

There is an upside to getting married while attending the Special Forces Qualification Course, if you get killed in training she collects!:munchin

Originally Posted by Richard (Post 386330)

I was glad to have waited until I was an experienced SF NCO before attempting marriage, something I think had a powerful influence on us being able to anticipate our 36th anniversary this coming August.

However - it's your path, son, and only you can walk it. Good luck.

Originally Posted by mhaggart

If you want to add any more bitter posts to this threat just send me a private message, easier to find them, and laugh.

Originally Posted by Richard

Well, there you have it. I suggest you go bother the chaplain for awhile - he gets paid for politely listening.

We'll be glad to hear how your decisions worked out for you...in about 5 years. Good luck.

Originally Posted by mhaggart (Post 386966)

And yes I am a "grown ass man," who realizes the experiences and knowledge of the men and women on this board vast surpass mine. Thus my question about marriage, something vary important in any mans life. Who does not ask for advice in situations such as this. Many of you have had careers in SF and will have good advice for me. Much of with is hard to hear. If you don't mind. If you want to add any more bitter posts to this threat just send me a private message, easier to find them, and laugh.

Originally Posted by 1stindoor (Post 387031)

For future reference, this is one of Richard's nicer posts. You'll notice it answered the initial question, offered insight, and offered luck in his chosen path.

Couple that with the OP's snide remark

And you get the "Richard" we all have come to know and love